Arranged Marriages

A client of mine, Joanne was having trouble with her oldest son. Lewis was in a group home because he was very angry. He tried to get his way by using a knife to threaten Joanne. Lewis was only 10 years old and you would think subduing him would be easy. Joanne’s social worker was visiting and Lewis attempted to scare the social worker by jabbing the knife at the worker. Eventually, Lewis lost the knife ( not sure if he gave it up or what) and was returned to care.

The second time I visited Joanne, I asked her if she had been in love with Lewis’ father when Lewis was conceived. Joanne shook her head and then said no. She had never been in love with Hal, Lewis’ dad. That was the problem.

All the clients, I saw who had difficult children were asked if they had ever been in love with the fathers of the difficult children at the time of conception. I never received a yes.

In order to attract a positive soul, a couple need to be in love with each other at the time of conception. When the heart chakras are closed, any entity can step in. When the heart chakras are open, the love will attract a calmer being.

There was a case, years ago in Quebec where the mother and father were estranged. Mom was pregnant and wanted to terminate the pregnancy. She really disliked the father who was an ex-boyfriend. The dad had been abusive, physically and emotionally. Mom went to a psychic to decide whether terminating the pregnancy was a good idea or not. She was told the child would not only have physical problems, but mental problems as well. So Mom terminated the pregnancy before the court had decided one way or another. Dad was not happy, but there was nothing he could do.

I don’t know why some of the major religions of the world have allowed arranged marriages. As a practicing astrologer, I have cast many charts for extremely unhappy women who had been forced into arranged marriages. Many of the arranged marriages were put together by astrologers. The couples had absolutely nothing in common. The marriages must have been arranged because of the money, not the potential for a great love relationship.

A recent client came for her chart. She seemed sad. I asked for her husband’s birthday. When I saw the aspects, I said he had a bad temper with a negative attitude. My client said, ’I hate him. I don’t agree with arranged marriages.’

I asked if she would force her children into this. She said ‘no’ rather adamantly.

Raj was in love with a man in India, but her parents did not approve of him. So, she was forced to marry someone else. Her husband brought her to Canada and the abuse continued. Her parents, in India, thought that she should stay married. I asked if her parents had been happily married. No was the answer. Did they love her? I could tell by Raj’s chart that it was unlikely that Raj had ever been loved. Great, a generational thing with no love, that attracts negative people and negative relationships. Is the world a better place with such people? I don’t think so.

Anyway, Raj brought out a picture of her marriage day. There was beautiful Raj, in a ceremonial marriage sari looking so lost and sad. Standing next to her, was a beefy man with a slight sneer. He looked angry. I could feel his negative energy through the photo. I asked if her parents noticed anything wrong with him. She said they just wanted me married.

Raj then pulled out another photo of her face. Her left eye was black and blue and shut. The blackness went up to her eyebrow and down to the middle of her cheekbone. Although her right eye was open, there were lacerations all over her face.

Now there is an appearance in court and her ex-husband has sworn he never touched Raj. Raj has left him and said he has no heart. By the way, his parents had arranged marriages too.

Love is a necessary ingredient for marriage. Is it any wonder that there are so many angry people in the world? Where is the love? Certainly rare in arranged marriages. Getting pregnant with someone you don’t love who does not love you is flirting with disaster. How sad and very depressing!!!

I have only met one woman to date, who had an arranged marriage and is happy. She really liked her husband as a suitor and told her parents prior to the meetings that if she did not like the man, she would not marry him. She did marry him and they both seem crazy about each other. I love to see that.

I believe that India, for example is a Capricorn country. They believe in maintaining the status quo. Poor, neglected childhoods are common. Being bony, thin is normal. Capricorn is a very traditional, paternal sign. If their parents, grandparents and great grandparents did something a certain way, the way is continued, no matter how inhumane it is. Having money and power is thought to be the be all and end all. Capricorns will marry for money, status and power. I have heard that from many Capricorns.

If you want to have love in your children, it better be alive and well in you mate. Simple, really.